Coach #2 says, “Men, today one team will win the championship. In fact, one of only two teams has to win it! Let’s go out there and see if that team is US!
Friend #2 says, “I know that starting a new job has unknowns that can be very scary. Of course you have some fears and doubts. Please call me, because I’m really interested in how your first day goes.”
Much of what passes for positive thinking is simply judging thoughts and emotions (and energies, but I will concentrate more on the first two) to be good or bad, and trying to eliminate the bad. So positive thinkers spend roughly half of their time fighting the negative, and feeling wrong or inadequate if they don’t win that fight.However, I believe that most of our problems with how we think and feel started with trying to fight our own thoughts and feelings. As children, we were told not to feel sad, afraid, or (especially) angry. But we were also taught not to feel joy. (“What’s all the noise in here, keep it down!” Or, “Those are good grades, let’s see if you can keep them up next term.”) Notice that a lot of what passes for positive thinking puts more pressure on a person, starts from a position of wrong and inadequate, and often doesn’t achieve the desired result.My definition of being positive is saying, “Yes.” Using this new definition, if we are afraid, instead of telling ourselves that we shouldn’t feel that way, we can tell ourselves, “Yes! I feel afraid!” Now that we own it, we can change how we experience any emotion. And we can put any emotion to positive use. (There’s that word again!)If we say yes to our thoughts and emotions – not as truth necessarily, but simply as what we are thinking or feeling – then we are already being positive, and it leads to two things. Curiosity and confidence. To me, curiosity is a much better motivator that the old positive thinking. Imagine going into an activity. You can tell yourself one of two things.“I know I can do this.” If a part of you doesn’t really know this, or has doubts, then you may have the vague sense of lying to yourself, which creates greater stress and more doubts. Or you can say, “I’m looking forward to this. I’ve done my work and preparation, and I wonder what my experience will be like.”Which feels more positive to you? Which way allows you to be more confident? Confidence doesn’t mean you are sure that you can do perfectly. True confidence means that you know you are capable, you are equal to the situation, and whatever the outcome, you will be able and capable. To be confident, you don’t have to be perfect, (which you’ve never been), but simply able to handle a situation, which you’ve already been doing. So maybe that means that confidence isn’t something you need to achieve, but something you already possess that you can recognize, express, and use more and more to your advantage.Yes, true confidence starts with thinking a positive thought. “Yes, this is how I feel right now.”What does all this have to do with dowsing? A lot. It may change the types of questions you ask your dowsing system. For instance, instead of “How can I clear this?” you may ask, “How can I use this?” Instead of, “How can I achieve more?” you may ask, “How can I more easily enjoy the person I am?”
Think of sitting down to dowse. Now you may be asking yourself, “I wonder if I’m — good/relaxed/hydrated/special/ allowed/capable/experienced — enough to do this well.”
What you are asking is something you may always be asking yourself. “Am I enough?”
Alan Handelsman began working with energy healing in 1991, and has been a certified hypnotherapist for over 12 years. As a professional musician, he began learning about energy work as a way to help himself with his own stage fright and depression. He now incorporates dowsing in his work, helps private clients with performance and personal issues, and has given workshops and trainings to dowsers and others worldwide, including California, Vermont, Colorado, Oregon, Washington, Texas, Arkansas, New Jersey, Pennsylvania, Canada, England, Switzerland, and Norway. His Resonance Tuner™ is used in all 50 states and 39 foreign countries. He is noted for his ability to approach his teaching and private practice with warmth and humor. more information: www.sourcehypnosis.com